With the development of economy and society, the core problem of providing for the aged in China has changed from solving poverty and material shortage to how to meet the spiritual needs of the elderly. The essence and core of active aging is social participation. Active social participation helps the elderly gain respect and dignity, and feel the value and significance of life. However, the negative stereotype of aging and the negative characteristic orientation of aging related research hinder the promotion of positive aging and the satisfaction of the spiritual needs of the elderly. Based on the analysis and reflection of aging dilemma, aging stereotype and the connotation of the spiritual needs of the elderly, this paper puts forward the “win-win” strategy of urban pension and rural revitalization, and explores the realistic path to meet the spiritual needs of the elderly.